How to Ask for Money as a Wedding Gift: A Friendly Guide

Asking for money as a wedding gift can feel a bit awkward, especially if it’s not something you're used to doing. However, it’s becoming more and more common for couples to request contributions toward their honeymoon or future adventures together. If you're considering adding a note about this to your wedding invitation, here are some thoughtful and friendly ways to phrase it, ensuring you don't offend anyone while still being clear about what you'd appreciate.

1. Keep it Light and Fun

You don’t have to make it sound too formal or uncomfortable. Here’s a fun way to word it:

"The most important gift to us is having you share in our special day.
But if you wish to contribute in some other way,
We would love a few pennies to put in our pot,
For our next adventure after tying the knot!"

This approach is casual and upbeat, making it clear that your guest's presence is the top priority while giving them the option to contribute to your honeymoon fund.

2. Make It Fun and Playful

If you're looking for a way to add some personality and fun to your request, here's a more playful option:

"We know it’s not traditional,
But an awful lot more fun...
So, rather than a wedding list,
We’d love to catch some sun!"

This lighthearted approach sets the tone for a fun wedding while hinting at your desire for a honeymoon fund.

3. A thank you in advance option

Already living together and want to get away? While also thanking your guests ahead of time

"In our home we have many things,
That living together always brings.
A honeymoon donation would be great,
If any of our special guests wish to participate.
And when our honeymoon is all done,
We’ll have great memories
And can thank you for all our fun."

This creative approach is fun and memorable, showing your guests that you appreciate any contributions towards your honeymoon fund and how grateful you are.

4. The Classic Approach with a Twist

If you prefer something simple but still clear, here’s a classic request with a twist:

"We are sending out this invitation, in hope you will join a celebration.
But if a gift is your intention, may we take this opportunity to mention:
We have already got a kettle and toaster, dinner mats and matching coasters.
So rather than something we’ve already got, we would appreciate money for our honeymoon pot.
But most importantly we request, that you come to our wedding as our guest."

This keeps things formal and polite, while offering guests the option to contribute to your honeymoon instead of buying another kitchen item!

5. For Those Who Prefer No Gifts at All

If you don’t feel comfortable asking for money or gifts and simply want to share your special day with loved ones, here’s a polite way to let your guests know:

"The biggest gift you can give us is your attendance at our marriage,
However, if a gift is your intention, then we simply ask for no more.
Your presence is what means the most, and we don’t need anything more!"

This approach is simple, heartfelt, and ensures your guests know that their presence is more than enough. It takes any pressure off your guests, making it clear that you don’t expect gifts of any kind, and allows them to focus on celebrating with you.

Final Tip

The key to asking for money as a wedding gift is to make it clear that your guest’s presence is what matters most. Providing the option to contribute to your honeymoon fund in a light, friendly way ensures that no one feels pressured. With these thoughtful, easy-going requests, you’ll be able to ask for what you want without feeling awkward—and your guests will appreciate the clarity!